How To Start Putting Yourself First To Live The Life You want

People often misunderstand what it means to put yourself first. To put yourself first means to take care of your own needs first

More often people think that putting themself first is selfish for that reason they put everyone else first, after taking care of everyone else they are often exhausted to take care of their own needs.

And I was one of these people who always take care of everyone else needs before my own needs.

I was born in a big family of 7, automatically I grew up to believe that I must take care of everyone around me first because when they are happy I can be happy too.

And it's becoming a big part of me to take care of others' needs first before myself own needs, then my desires my needs, and goals almost became hopeless because of the needs and demand of others.

When I realize that I was living for others but not for myself  I knew that I have to start putting myself first.

How did I do it, I learn how to say no to people by starting to write my to-do list every day and I make this list my top daily priority when other people ask me to do something for them I must check my to-do list first before giving an answer to their request.

This to-do-list method helped me to know how to put myself first, to take of my needs, and how I can help others without having any regrets. I am now able to take care of myself and the people I love by taking care of myself of my own needs first

I am not saying that you should stop helping others, all I am saying is that you must start taking care of your own needs first because it’s when you balance your own needs with others then you will have so much more to give

After all, we all have heard this many times (when on a plane) “in an emergency situation” ‘put the oxygen mask on yourself first’ before helping others

What to do to put yourself first before others

  • Start creating your every day to-do list, and make this list a priority, always make sure that you check your to-do list before giving an answer to other people request, and remember that your to-do list is your priority


  • Always think about how you want to spend your day, think about what you want to achieve at the end of the day to feel alive and feel good about yourself.


  • Then write a list of what makes you happy. Make sure you create room for these every day. every day might not be the same but make it your priority to archive something good for yourself every day


It is important to fill your own cup first or you will end up with nothing to give to others. You’re far more able to value others once you value and care about you. Self-love is not selfish.

That is it for now thank you for being, please leave a comment let me know what you think, and if you need anything or if you have any question reach out to me via the contact page, and I hope to be seeing you around bye for now

Kindest Greetings, Sandra Kiers


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